“Among those who dislike oppression are many who like to oppress.” -Napoleon Bonaparte
It’s a form of oppression to tell someone that if they have nothing nice to say, don’t say anything at all. I do not understand when the sensitivity of the masses dictated whether or not I can have an opinion became the norm. I am not an outwardly malicious person, but I am honest. And I honestly think some hairstyles are ugly and some outfits make you look fat. And there is absolutely no reason to tell a child who is not the best that they are the best. A false sense of security will harm someone more than growing a thicker skin and working harder.
This generation is the master of participation awards. When little Jimmy came in last place because he was the worst player, he should take the constructive criticism and practice harder. Failing is good for character and for innovation and improvement. Not many succeed in their first try. But if we keep telling each other that trying was good enough, then we are creating a generation that is merely “good enough”.
We are trapped in a world of formalities and wondering if we offended anyone in the room. We are too politically correct, and we tip-toe around every topic. It’s common knowledge to not talk about religion, politics, etc, at social gatherings. But why? We are afraid to argue and to offend. I would personally love to attack someone’s political beliefs at a party, because then they are forced to defend their opinion, or god forbid learn to understand someone else’s adverse views. Arguing is healthy, opposing opinions are healthy. It allows new ideas to be formed. In fact, our entire social and political system can be based all the way back to Socrates when he questioned a common passerby in the Greek Agora about any and anything under the sun–and didn’t hesitate to tell people they were wrong or disagreed. He incited change and individuality. Now, none of us share adverse opinions, we can agree on that, yet whenever we voice out separatism, it’s taboo and rude. So we’re taught to give everyone an A for effort and swallow our “impolite” comments. It’s an autocratic principle in a society who prides themselves on being unapologetically themselves.